Today I want to tell you a few secrets that you can use right away to feel amazing.

I want you to think about how YOU see and speak to yourself?

Then think about how this makes you FEEL?

This is especially important when it comes to weight loss.

Over the last few months I’ve been working really hard with the Reactive ladies on their mindset and specifically to ditch the scales or as I like to call them the sad step.


Because placing value on who you are and how you feel based on the numbers on a scale is crazy and a sure fire way of setting yourself up to fail.

Getting healthy, losing weight, dropping fat, getting strong or whatever your goal is, takes time and consistency.

There can be so many road bumps and the journey is tough enough without adding extra pressure to meet a certain weight.

In any month let alone week your weight can fluctuate due to TOM, hydration, stress, time of day, previous meals and even the clothing your wearing.

What I’m saying is that you can be making excellent process, FEELING great then you step on the sad step and if it’s not going the way you want…

You feel like absolute shit, you go from feeling on top of the world to ready to give up and convince yourself you will never be happy.

The thing is it was working, you are feeling amazing, loads of energy, happy, your shape is changing, you even notice it in your clothes.

Other people are even commenting about how you have a spring in your step and are happier…

I don’t know how to say this any clearer – STAY OFF THE FRICKING SAD STEP (there’s actual lot’s of research and evidence on this, so please do yourself a favour and ditch the scales)

Now we have that sorted, lets get to the game changer and more importantly how YOU talk to yourself?

What do you say when you look in the mirror?

When shopping for clothes?

Or whenever you think about your weight?

I bet it’s not something you would be happy saying to others?

Did you know women experience an average of 13 negative thoughts about their body each day.

While 97% of women admit to having at least one “I hate my body” moment each day.

When it comes to weight the worst thing that we can tell ourself is “Im Fat”.

Think about it, you don’t say I’m hair or I’m skin it’s absurd.

Why is it absurd?

Because you are not any of those things, your not skin, your not bones and you are certainly NOT fat.

By constantly saying “I AM FAT” we imply that this is who we are and being fat defines us.

What if instead of saying “I AM FAT” you change the language you use?

What if you said “I HAVE FAT”?

This change reinforces that you have fat and that you also have the ability to lose fat.

Just this little tweak can be so powerful, it totally transforms the meaning and how YOU see yourself.

The fat you have does not define you.

It doesn’t devalue you as a person or make you any less than anyone else.

You are a wonderful strong women who has fat that you fully intend losing, and the words you speak to yourself matter.

Staying off the sad step and reframing how you talk to yourself are the 2 most powerful ways to make instant change with your mindset…

And theres more…

Let me tell you this quick story ;)

A lady down on her luck decides to ask God for help.

“Dear Lord” she prays, “If I don’t get some cash, I’m gonna lose everything, Please let me win the lottery.”

Lottery night comes, but she doesn’t win.

She prays even harder the next night, saying “God, why have you forsaken me? My children are starving. Please just let me win this once.”

Still no win…

So she goes to church and pleads “God please, I really need your help and if you can find it in your power please let me win the lottery”

Theres an almighty flash of light and she hears God say…

“You got to work with me on this and buy a goddamn ticket”


My point being, you’re off the sad step, being nice to yourself and working on your mindset but praying and wishing won’t get you results.

Be consistent, eat healthy, move more than normal, be nice to yourself and trust the process ;)